Couples therapy
For two partners, whatever the two of you are
For two people who are queer, or partnered with someone who is, and who want to talk with someone who won't ask what you are or how it works.
Sessions run 80 minutes. We begin by hearing each of you describe the relationship in your own words, then we work on what you most want to change. We don't start from a script about how couples are supposed to be. Whatever is true for you is the starting point, including things that don't have a name yet.
You might be
New together, or together for decades
Married, engaged, or neither
Living together, or in two homes
Monogamous, open, or still deciding
Raising children, or not
What to expect
How we work
We draw on attachment-based and systemic approaches to couples work. We name the one we are using and why, and we change course if it isn't helping.
What this is not
It is not an evaluation, and we don't keep score or take sides. We don't tell you whether to stay together, and we don't promise a result.
How long, how often
Sessions run 80 minutes. Many couples meet weekly at first, then less often. Your clinician sets the pace with you, and we never promise a number of sessions.
How it is paid
Each session's fee is given in writing before you start, and either of you can pay. Insurance often doesn't cover couples work; how fees work explains why.
How fees work
Three questions
Do we both have to want to be here?
It helps if both of you are willing to try, though it doesn't need to be equal. A first session is a way to find out whether it is something you both want.
Can one of us come alone first?
Many people want to. We agree at the start how we will handle time with one person alone, so neither of you is surprised by it.
What if we disagree about continuing?
That is something we can work on directly. For many couples, deciding together whether to continue is part of the work.
Write to us about couples therapy
Tell us how to reach you and how you would describe things. We will write back at a time that is safe for you.